The Unexpected Sibling

This is a very dicey subject. But I was prompted to write on it as a result of my many observations of people who found themselves in this situation.

A friend lost her father four years after loosing her mother. A month after her father's demise, two women emerged separately with three young children between them claiming to be her father's mistresses and that the children were his.

To say it was a bitter shock is to say the least. A DNA test was proposed and neither of the ladies declined. The results proved that all three children belonged to her father. Of all her siblings, my friend took it the hardest. She refused to attend her father's funeral. Friends and family pleaded, scolded but it all turned on deaf ears. 

She said she felt disappointed and heartbroken not just for herself but for her late mother. From two of the oldest love children's age, it was clear that they were born around the period her mother was battling cancer. She was shuttling between Nigeria and UK fighting to stay alive, but the cancer won. She is bitter because her father cheated on her mother during the period she needed him most and not even with one woman but two. "and he even had the nerve to knock them both up around the same time, he wasn't even using protection!" she said. 

Well she's no longer bitter but she tells me she doesn't regret not attending her father's funeral. The love children are being catered for by her father's estate which is managed by her elder sister.

Do you think she over-reacted? What would you do if you were in her shoes? 

Say your mother was alive and healthy but your father still went ahead to have children out of wedlock. Would you resent him or would you just take it as one of life's many issues and cut him some slack.

Would you cater for the child if they needed your help and you are in a position to help? Beyonce has been widely criticized for ignoring her father's love child. If you were in her shoes, tell me, what would you do differently?

Some men go as far as marrying their baby mama's, while some just maintain two homes without fully committing to their baby mama but the fact still remains that daddy has kids outside.....how do you handle that? And if you are a lady who's husband has had kids out of wedlock, can you share how you feel about it and how you have dealt with it. Your experience could go a long way in helping someone else who's facing the same situation. 

Now a slight deviation.....I've also noticed that people from polygamous homes tend to be less prone to jealousy than those from monogamous homes. I'm not stereotyping, but it's just an observation from the people around me and happenings around me. Do you think so too?