Unfortunately women don't come with a manual (I bet you wish we did)but with a little patience, thoughtfulness and these points below, you'd be on the right track to becoming the perfect boo.
Define Your Relationship
Are You FWBs- Friends with benefits? Is she a booty call? Is she your girlfriend? Potential wife? When you refer to her as a ‘friend’, when you've actually been dating her for a few months, that hurts. So if you’re not 100 % sure about the status of your relationship, then maybe it’s time to have that conversation with her like a real man should.
When She Ignores You, It's A Silent Cry For Attention
This may seem unreasonable sometimes but when she picks a fight, she expects you to hug her from behind, kiss her and re-iterate the fact that you love her. Women don't give the silent treatment for nothing, she either wants something or you've done something to upset her. Step down from your ego tower for a moment and give her some attention. Retaliating with cold silence will only make things worse.
Lying or Keeping Secrets Translates To You Being Unfaithful
Constant lying and changing your stories very often are all red flags to a woman. Guys, there is absolutely nothing wrong with putting a password on your phones, laptops etc.- but why can't your girlfriend know your password? Why can't your woman have access to your email, Facebook account and other social media platforms you are on? You hiding something? What are you hiding? You know the urge to snoop is fuelled by secrecy.
A healthy relationship is based on truth, openness, honesty which then breeds trust, respect and ultimately love. You know that 'old female friend' who stumbled on your profile on fb? Yeah, that one.....that recently added you on fb and innocently requested for your bbm pin. The one you chat with frequently and finally decided to meet up with and catch up on old times without telling us ,errrr....we consider that to be CHEATING!
Frequent Compliments Won't Go Amiss
There's nothing wrong with making your woman's head swell. Tell her how hot you think she is, how beautiful she is, notice her hair do when she changes it, notice the new sexy dress or lingerie she recently bought to impress you. Needing reassurance from her man doesn't mean a woman is insecure in her relationship, it just means she loves hearing complements from the man she adores. It won't make you lesser the man that you are to tell the woman you love how much you appreciate her and how much joy she's brings to your life. We LOVE to hear that! Don't we ladies???
If you don't pay her complements, someone else will, from there he'll ask her out to innocent lunch dates, then dinner dates, from there he'll buy her little gifts, then he'll start to tell her all the things she wishes you would tell her, from there your property go become another man own.
Not Every Woman Is A Gold Digger
Yes, we know in your dating journey you may have come across some women that only wanted you for what your bank balance was worth but reality of it is that NOT every woman is like that. Don't take the nasty experience you had in your previous relationship into the new one. Just the same way not every man is after a woman for sex alone sex alone, not every woman is with a woman for his money. But that's no excuse to be tight fisted though. Buy her gifts once in a while not just on special occasions.Take her out to nice places for lunch or dinner e.t.c Do the needful but don't be a Maga. Ladies, respect yourselves too. Learn to be financially independent.
No Woman Is Perfect
Not even our mothers are perfect, so why would you expect your girlfriend or wife to be?
She'd have her off days, she won't always do things the way you want or always say the right things but that doesn't make her less of a human being. She won't always be prim and proper, hair nicely done, nails well kept and all......she's allowed some off days, cut her some slack abeg, you are not perfect either.
Never Mess With A Woman's Intuition
Well most women's intuition. Some women can smell or taste things before they even happen. Know your woman, listen to her, I don't mean just hear her out- actually listen and give deep thought to the things she says. Respect her opinion and don't just shut her views off. It kills a woman's spirit.
Ladies, please feel free to add anything else I missed.
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